22.03.2024 05:41

An autonomous child is every parent's dream. Mum and dad are looking forward to when the child will take the first steps by himself, start to fall asleep alone, learn to dress and eat. How to bring up independence in the child and stop controlling him? We asked this question to school psychologist Anastasia Andreevna Novoselova.

- It is necessary to encourage independence in a child from a very early childhood. From the age of 3, mothers can organise shelves and hangers for their children so that they can come up and get their things. To begin with, after washing, the mum suggests that the child disassemble his panties and socks, put them in his drawer, and in the morning, when he is going to kindergarten, tell him: "Take your clean socks and panties, you know where they lie".

Gradually, the child's responsibilities grow. He should know how to look after himself, make his bed, clean the dust, empty the rubbish, and buy bread. Gradually teach him to do routine work from day to day.

How to teach to do homework independently? In the first grade, it is recommended to stay close to the child. In the second grade, we give more independence - see the task that he will perform, and sort it out together. Slowly, starting from the third quarter, we can go to the next room and say: "We are here, close by. If there are questions, you can always turn. In the third grade, we already let them do the task themselves in a draft, show it to us, and then go and write it down in a notebook.

It refers to everything. At first, we offer the child to clean his room together and put away his toys, then we slowly start to go to the next room: " In the meantime, you clean up, and I will soon come and help you". If the school is close to the house and there are no dangerous intersections on the way, you can let your child go to school independently from the third grade onwards. If there is a shop on the way home, you can give the child the task of buying bread, for example, on the way home from school. In this way, the child becomes independent and responsible.

We are very grateful to Anastasia Andreevna for her help in preparing this material.